Come As You Are

My package got lost at first, but the seller was kindenough to send it again and get it on time :) The book was pre-owend but the quality is so good it like a new

This book took me on quite a journey. I read it because I felt broken, I felt like what I was experiencing was my fault. That I should want sex more. By the end of the book I learned so much more than what I was expecting and decided to write a letter to my husband explaining the secret ingredient - me, knowing, understanding and respecting me. We then talked about our accelerators and brakes and responsive and spontaneous desire. I explained how the media, cultural and medical messages have trained my brain to respond in some very specific ways to things he has said. We discussed the things I had learned about myself and he simply said... Well that all makes sense and smiled. This book has given me the tools to communicate with my husband in a way I never thought I'd have the confidence to do. Thank you, whenever I hear someone talking about feeling broken or struggling with thier sexuality or relationships I will recommend this book.

Every women and I would say every man in the world would benefit from this book. As a psychologist I wanted to give this book to each one of my clients. Brilliant job.

A phenomenal book that is relevant to SO much more beyond only sex. Deserves to be in schools - for women AND men.

I have really enjoyed reading this book. It felt broader than sex advice. More like advice for life generally. Excellent!

This makes some aspects of sex research seem so obvious. The best of them do. I listened along, thinking: "oh yeah!" and "why didn't I see it that way before?" I've already recommended this to a couple of friends (one single, one in a loving relationship), both of whom I think will find it interesting as men to consider from a new perspective. This is an updated version of a previously released book about desire, normality in sex and in how the brain and sex organs interact in our experiences of pleasure. Having only listened to the updated version, I cannot comment on the updates, but did find it inclusive of those outside of binary categories of gender, and also aware of its shortcomings in terms of research. It's absolutely fascinating. And certainly made me ponder my own history, current position, future wants and attitudes. There are a lot of simple quotable lines that Nagoski refers to regularly, she reassures and explains the range of normality we all encompass. She manages to explain how a lot of problems many readers experience have arisen. And uses examples of 'women' in relationships (composites of a number she has worked with) to exemplify a few key 'types' that demonstrate various points she makes. While I've never felt other than existing somewhere along the range of 'normal', this did tick a few boxes and hit a nerve several times when I recognised behaviours, situations and experiences that fit me. Listening to explanations did clear a few things up and make me look at myself and my own body and desires with clearer vision and certainly a lot more kindness, not to mention confidence to express myself. One for women to read to get to know themselves. One for men to read to get to know the women around them and how they can both differ and communicate those differences, then work to find common ground. This does not become overly scientific or technical, but does use terminology. Loved the Too Long: Didn't Read (TL: DR) at the end of each chapter, great summaries that did remind me of key points. The book translates perfectly to audiobook format, and with the addition of the attached pdf (accessible through the Audible menu on the app), gives plenty of material for mulling over, for testing yourself and to return to for future consideration. The author makes an expressive and empathic narrator, and covers her material passionately. It was easy to keep up with her, and she communicates with verve. This has already inspired me a little, in seeing myself, my mind and body in a slightly different way. And appreciating how it all got where it is. ​ With thanks to Nudge Books for providing a sample Audible copy.

Like many others I bought this off the back of the sex education reference by Maeve. I have to say it was boring, repetitive and overall disappointing. I wonder if the author paid for the reference or is in the know with the show writers? The fictional book by Dr Jean Milburn in sex education is a book I'd love to read!

This book is EVERYTHING! A must-read for every woman! I had issues with hormonal contraceptives (the pill & implant) a couple of years ago and I think my reaction to reading this book can be best summed up in this message I sent to my friend, quoting what I said to my boyfriend: “I’ve honestly felt a bit broken since all the contraceptives messed me up, turns out I’m completely normal, just in a different way than before.” Thank you Emily Nagoski for helping me to finally get to this point after 2 years of struggling!