--- product_id: 439397022 title: "How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self" price: "₹ 744" currency: INR in_stock: true reviews_count: 9 url: https://www.desertcart.in/products/439397022-how-to-do-the-work-recognize-your-patterns-heal-from store_origin: IN region: India --- # How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self **Price:** ₹ 744 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self - **How much does it cost?** ₹ 744 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.in](https://www.desertcart.in/products/439397022-how-to-do-the-work-recognize-your-patterns-heal-from) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description desertcart.com: How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self (Audible Audio Edition): Dr. Nicole LePera, Courtney Patterson, Harper: Audible Books & Originals Review: A new way to conceptualize Trauma - I was hesitant in providing a review but this book truly is a gem, in the sense that it will certainly change the field of mental health for the better. Curious to follow Dr Nicole LePera and her work, I couldn’t help but feel connected but also highly skeptical. As a clinically and research trained Psychologist, the deep rooted skepticism of new theories is inevitable: “but this isn’t what we were taught exactly” and “well how do we change the way conceptualize trauma from what we’ve learned and is it evidenced based?” and many other questions arose. Even my colleagues rolled their eyes when I mentioned it and repeated phrases such as “it’s just a fad, it strays from traditional practices.” And those responses...only lured me deeper into wanting to better understanding Nicole’s perspective. I bought the book. I began reading and felt who I am personally, while setting aside who I am professionally, naturally gravitate and feel seen within the content in this book. Nicole does a profoundly eloquent job in highlighting what many of us professionals struggle to conjure up for our patients. She bravely redefines Trauma and challenges old ideas to incorporate new thought in relation to current times. Trauma is real, it remains poorly understood and many people experience it. Nicole offers a new lens to conceptualize. Transparency is a key component of being a good therapist. For me, this book allowed me to reconnect with my own theories of trauma, Core beliefs, self-regulation, and attachment. It’s rare for doctoral programs to redirect self-conceptualization to the doctoral trainee. “Becoming self-aware” is not in their curriculum. It’s “focus on the patient, follow traditional theories, be ethical etc.” but never once do they look to the student and ask “how self-aware are you in your own trauma and how do you think this will impact your work as a therapist?” And I resonated with Nicole’s take on being a doctoral student and feeling lost in the overachieving, performance driven and “follow the protocol” energy of therapist. And it’s tiring so much so that we are bound to lose ourselves before we have a chance to ever find it- let alone- help to find themselves too. Nicole writes this book for many kinds of readers which is beyond helpful and powerful. More people can finally understand what’s going on with feeling disconnected from the self and learn ways to feel more connected. I think I am able to finally view my own vulnerabilities more clearly and allow myself to cultivate them into strengths that will translate into better helping my patients. This book will undoubtedly be a staple in the way I conceptualize who I am both personally and professionally. Thank you LePera. You’re creating a new wave of thought, a powerful way of treating the self, and redefining what it means to heal. And to my colleagues, it’s not a fad, just tap in and see for yourself. Review: How to Do the Work and more importantly, why - I didn’t expect a book to hit this hard. But How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera wasn’t just something I read — it became something I worked through. This book helped me start healing in ways I didn’t even know I needed. I’ve always considered myself someone who reflects a lot, but this book pushed me to go deeper. Much deeper. What stood out most were the questions at the end of each chapter. They weren’t your typical “think about this” kind of prompts. They were real, sometimes uncomfortable, and always honest. I’d find myself staring at a page thinking, “Do I really want to go there?” And then I would. And that’s where the growth happened. Some of the reflections brought tears. Others brought relief. Many brought clarity. Patterns, Triggers, and That Voice in My Head LePera’s breakdown of childhood conditioning, trauma bonds, emotional addiction, and the inner child made things click for me. I started to see how old patterns were still playing out in my relationships, in my thoughts, and in the way I react to stress. I used to overthink, catastrophize, and replay situations in my mind over and over. This book helped me see that those habits weren’t just quirks — they were coping mechanisms. Protective strategies. And most importantly, they were things I could actually shift with awareness and intention. The Journal Became a Lifeline I kept a journal next to me as I read each chapter. I wasn’t just underlining things (though I did a lot of that too); I was answering the questions, processing my responses, and starting to untangle the stories I had carried for years. Prompts like: “What beliefs about yourself did you inherit from your caregivers?” “Where are you abandoning yourself in order to be accepted?” “What would it look like to give yourself permission to feel safe?” …these were more than exercises. They opened doors. Some I didn’t even know were closed. Not Just for Therapists, Coaches, or Leaders You don’t need to be in a helping profession or leadership role to benefit from this book. You just need to be ready — or even curious — about healing. LePera doesn’t sugarcoat it. Healing is not easy or quick. But her writing is clear, compassionate, and based in both research and lived experience. She gives examples from her own life that make the process feel human and relatable. Final Thoughts How to Do the Work is the kind of book that can be read slowly, with a pen in hand and a quiet room. It’s also one you’ll probably return to, especially as your awareness grows. I recommend it to anyone who: Feels stuck in emotional loops or unhealthy relationships Wants to understand themselves better Is ready to start journaling with purpose Is curious about trauma, self-worth, boundaries, or identity Just wants to feel a little less alone For me, this book came at the right time — and I’m really glad I was willing to do the work. ## Images ![How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/91nfWPvJR4L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A new way to conceptualize Trauma *by K***E on March 30, 2021* I was hesitant in providing a review but this book truly is a gem, in the sense that it will certainly change the field of mental health for the better. Curious to follow Dr Nicole LePera and her work, I couldn’t help but feel connected but also highly skeptical. As a clinically and research trained Psychologist, the deep rooted skepticism of new theories is inevitable: “but this isn’t what we were taught exactly” and “well how do we change the way conceptualize trauma from what we’ve learned and is it evidenced based?” and many other questions arose. Even my colleagues rolled their eyes when I mentioned it and repeated phrases such as “it’s just a fad, it strays from traditional practices.” And those responses...only lured me deeper into wanting to better understanding Nicole’s perspective. I bought the book. I began reading and felt who I am personally, while setting aside who I am professionally, naturally gravitate and feel seen within the content in this book. Nicole does a profoundly eloquent job in highlighting what many of us professionals struggle to conjure up for our patients. She bravely redefines Trauma and challenges old ideas to incorporate new thought in relation to current times. Trauma is real, it remains poorly understood and many people experience it. Nicole offers a new lens to conceptualize. Transparency is a key component of being a good therapist. For me, this book allowed me to reconnect with my own theories of trauma, Core beliefs, self-regulation, and attachment. It’s rare for doctoral programs to redirect self-conceptualization to the doctoral trainee. “Becoming self-aware” is not in their curriculum. It’s “focus on the patient, follow traditional theories, be ethical etc.” but never once do they look to the student and ask “how self-aware are you in your own trauma and how do you think this will impact your work as a therapist?” And I resonated with Nicole’s take on being a doctoral student and feeling lost in the overachieving, performance driven and “follow the protocol” energy of therapist. And it’s tiring so much so that we are bound to lose ourselves before we have a chance to ever find it- let alone- help to find themselves too. Nicole writes this book for many kinds of readers which is beyond helpful and powerful. More people can finally understand what’s going on with feeling disconnected from the self and learn ways to feel more connected. I think I am able to finally view my own vulnerabilities more clearly and allow myself to cultivate them into strengths that will translate into better helping my patients. This book will undoubtedly be a staple in the way I conceptualize who I am both personally and professionally. Thank you LePera. You’re creating a new wave of thought, a powerful way of treating the self, and redefining what it means to heal. And to my colleagues, it’s not a fad, just tap in and see for yourself. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ How to Do the Work and more importantly, why *by S***K on July 18, 2025* I didn’t expect a book to hit this hard. But How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera wasn’t just something I read — it became something I worked through. This book helped me start healing in ways I didn’t even know I needed. I’ve always considered myself someone who reflects a lot, but this book pushed me to go deeper. Much deeper. What stood out most were the questions at the end of each chapter. They weren’t your typical “think about this” kind of prompts. They were real, sometimes uncomfortable, and always honest. I’d find myself staring at a page thinking, “Do I really want to go there?” And then I would. And that’s where the growth happened. Some of the reflections brought tears. Others brought relief. Many brought clarity. Patterns, Triggers, and That Voice in My Head LePera’s breakdown of childhood conditioning, trauma bonds, emotional addiction, and the inner child made things click for me. I started to see how old patterns were still playing out in my relationships, in my thoughts, and in the way I react to stress. I used to overthink, catastrophize, and replay situations in my mind over and over. This book helped me see that those habits weren’t just quirks — they were coping mechanisms. Protective strategies. And most importantly, they were things I could actually shift with awareness and intention. The Journal Became a Lifeline I kept a journal next to me as I read each chapter. I wasn’t just underlining things (though I did a lot of that too); I was answering the questions, processing my responses, and starting to untangle the stories I had carried for years. Prompts like: “What beliefs about yourself did you inherit from your caregivers?” “Where are you abandoning yourself in order to be accepted?” “What would it look like to give yourself permission to feel safe?” …these were more than exercises. They opened doors. Some I didn’t even know were closed. Not Just for Therapists, Coaches, or Leaders You don’t need to be in a helping profession or leadership role to benefit from this book. You just need to be ready — or even curious — about healing. LePera doesn’t sugarcoat it. Healing is not easy or quick. But her writing is clear, compassionate, and based in both research and lived experience. She gives examples from her own life that make the process feel human and relatable. Final Thoughts How to Do the Work is the kind of book that can be read slowly, with a pen in hand and a quiet room. It’s also one you’ll probably return to, especially as your awareness grows. I recommend it to anyone who: Feels stuck in emotional loops or unhealthy relationships Wants to understand themselves better Is ready to start journaling with purpose Is curious about trauma, self-worth, boundaries, or identity Just wants to feel a little less alone For me, this book came at the right time — and I’m really glad I was willing to do the work. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Life-Changing and Eye-Opening—A Must-Read for Inner Healing 💡🧠💛 *by J***N on May 31, 2025* How to Do the Work is more than a self-help book—it’s a roadmap to real, lasting change. Dr. Nicole LePera breaks down complex psychological concepts into relatable, actionable steps that empower you to understand your past, recognize unhealthy patterns, and build a more intentional life. Her approach blends science, spirituality, and self-compassion in a way that feels both deeply personal and universally relevant. If you're ready to take responsibility for your healing and step into your highest self, this book is a powerful first step. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.in/products/439397022-how-to-do-the-work-recognize-your-patterns-heal-from](https://www.desertcart.in/products/439397022-how-to-do-the-work-recognize-your-patterns-heal-from) --- *Product available on Desertcart India* *Store origin: IN* *Last updated: 2026-04-25*